tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7745744963806933906.post7140902010119119958..comments2013-06-22T10:49:26.157-04:00Comments on Welcome to my crazy life.....: Nurture your marriage the way you nurture your chilldrenBethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00081346135407070914noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7745744963806933906.post-8410559641879231552010-05-08T13:44:42.107-04:002010-05-08T13:44:42.107-04:00Beth,
I'm just now catching up on your blog fr...Beth,<br />I'm just now catching up on your blog from the week! You've been a writing fool!!!!! :)<br /><br />I love this post. I really, really, really, really do. It's something so many couples go through, but nobody every warns you about it, so it blindsides you. For us, it was right after our second (Sissy) was born and continued for over a year. It was awful. I woke up every day wishing he was not next to me, and I'm sure he felt the same way. After counseling and lots of praying and removing ourselves from a very sticky situation (another story for another day... I'll catch you up on that sometime soon), we're good now. There are still ups and downs, but once we realized we didn't want to be without each other, we started working a little harder at it. <br /><br />Our counselor told us two things that really helped. First, she told us to keep having sex no matter how much we dislike each other. This made all the difference, I think. Second, she told us to think about what it would be like to sit our kids down and tell them we're getting a divorce. Could we imagine looking into their little faces and telling them we weren't going to be together any more? I couldn't imagine it.<br /><br />It will get better, but it does take lots of work. We go through these ups and downs all the time it seems. <br /><br />And you ARE the same girl Jon fell in love with. Maybe not the drinking/smoking/stay up all night girl, but you're still fun and beautiful and sassy just like you were four years ago. You just have to find a way to carve out some time to let him know that.<br /><br />Also (last thing, I promise), as unfair as this sounds, you're probably going to have to be the one that makes the first move to nurture your marriage. He might not want to. But don't give up. I love your family and I KNOW you need to be together!<br /><br />Love ya girl!!Kristy Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05816266165596643837noreply@blogger.com